How hard is to to commit to something? Why do we have problems sticking to our commitments? What can we do to ensure we stick to our commitments?
This photo reminds me of a time when I purchased an old car with the intent to restore it, but after speaking with panelbeaters and car enthusiasts I came to the conclusion that the project was going to be bigger than I anticipated, so I ended up stripping the car and keeping the parts as spares.
When I think of the many commitments I have made throughout my lifetime, there have been some which have been total failures, others which I am kind of happy with and then a few which I am quite proud of. Why couldn't I commit fully to all of them?
A commitment is a decision to stick to a course of action in order to achieve a goal. Just in making this statement, I realise why I have failed with many of my commitments.
I haven't properly treated them as goals. I haven't written them down. I haven't planned on how I was going to achieve many of those goals. The reason behind me making the commitment has not been compelling enough for me. On some occasions I haven't fully believed in my own ability to achieve the goal.
When starting or buying into a business, it's really important to fully commit to whatever business goals you set. There is often a lot at stake when you buy or set up a business. There is the financial commitment, the time and energy commitment plus of course the impact that running a business will have on the other people in your life.
Another huge commitment which many of us make at some stage of our lives is when we enter into a marriage. It's a huge commitment, but apart from sharing your vows publically, how many of us take the time to plan how we will commit to our marriage?
I believe the same happens when we make New Year resolutions. We make the commitment for the wrong reason or without planning how we are going to stick to it.
There are four things we need to consider when entering into a commitment.
What are the roadblocks which generally derail our commitments? In my case they are often distractions. I lose focus and my energy gets dispersed in all different directions.
Another is the fear of leaving our comfort zones. This will often happen when our WHY is not defined enough.
Another is lack of planning. If my intention is to lose weight and increase my fitness, then I need to clear my cupboards of the food that won't help me achieve that goal and I also need to blockout time on my calendar for my fitness activities.
If I had taken the time to really assess what it was going to cost me to restore that old car in the first place, I would not have committed to purchasing it as a restoration project.
I hope this has been helpful.
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